When approaching a proof, it is often very useful to return to the definition. Let me first work in \(\RR^2\) to illustrate; I’ll generalize to \(\RR^n\) afterwards. I have two vectors \(u,v \in \RR^n\text{.}\) I write them as components.
\begin{align*}
\amp u = \begin{pmatrix} u_1 \\ u_2 \end{pmatrix}
\amp \amp v = \begin{pmatrix} v_1 \\ v_2 \end{pmatrix}
\end{align*}
Then I use the definition of vector addition. I’ll start with the left side of the equation and try to work towards the right.
\begin{align*}
u + v \amp = \begin{pmatrix} u_1 \\ u_2 \end{pmatrix}
+ \begin{pmatrix} v_1 \\ v_2 \end{pmatrix} \\
\amp = \begin{pmatrix} u_1 + v_1 \\ u_2 + v_2
\end{pmatrix}
\end{align*}
That’s the definition. Now each addition in the components (\(u_1 + v_1\) and \(u_2 + v_2\)) is the addition of ordinary numbers, so I can reverse the order of this addition.
\begin{align*}
\amp = \begin{pmatrix} v_1 + u_1 \\ v_2 + u_2
\end{pmatrix}
\end{align*}
The result is precisely the definition of the right side.
\begin{align*}
\amp = v + u
\end{align*}
I started on the left side of the desired equation and ended up with the right side, thus proving the identity. This was for \(\RR^2\text{,}\) so I still need to do the general case for \(\RR^n\text{.}\) Luckily for me, the steps are exactly the same, just for a vector with \(n\) components. Here are the steps in the general case: first, I use the definition of \(u + v\text{,}\) then I switch the order of the ordinary addition of numbers in each component, then I use the definition of \(v + u\text{.}\)
\begin{align*}
u + v \amp = \begin{pmatrix} u_1 \\ u_2 \\ \vdots \\ u_n
\end{pmatrix} + \begin{pmatrix} v_1 \\ v_2 \\ \vdots \\
v_n \end{pmatrix} \\
\amp = \begin{pmatrix} u_1 + v_2 \\ u_2 + v_2 \\
\vdots \\ u_n + v_n \end{pmatrix} \\
\amp = \begin{pmatrix} v_1 + u_2 \\ v_2 + u_2 \\
\vdots \\ v_n + u_n \end{pmatrix} \\
\amp = v + u
\end{align*}
That is the proof for the general case, so I am done.